Wednesday, February 18, 2009

Love && Lust

I find it funny how the concept of love and lust works.

I think people have gotten confused over the difference of the two. Don't get me wrong, I have as well. I'm by no mean perfect. Extreme opposite if that. It just seems soo much more common now than in the old days or perhaps I just notice it now as I get older.

Lets take a look at the definitions:

1. intense sexual desire or appetite.

noun, verb, loved, lov·ing. noun
1. a profoundly tender, passionate affection for another person.

The first definition is taken from each word. It seems that one implies more a physical attraction while the other implies a more emotional connection. I'm a firm believer of "Lust at first sight" but the one I have a little trouble with is "Love at first sight". I don't believe in love at first sight. I think its a fairytale concept that has made its way into the mainstream world today.

Back to the main idea of the confusion of the two. I know many people who have married within the first few months of knowing each other. I hardly think thats enough time to get to know a person. You're in love with the idea of them. Trust i've been in love with the idea of someone too.. The idea that they are hardworking, going somewhere in life ... faithful. But actions didn't reflect it. I'm soo sure a person has fallen in love with the idea of me. But like I said i'm not perfect and I have my very own quirks.

I think love is accepting a persons imperfections. Learning a persons reactions, skills, interest, desires, goals, quirks etc...and loving them despite it all. Idealistic. Probably. Is their really one perfect person for everyone? Were we really made to mesh well with only ONE other person in this whole world? Who knows..

&& doesn't always seem you when a person wants you, you dont want them ... but when you realize you want them they're over you.


Emo status.. haven't had one in awhile

7 Freakin Comments!:

Bon Don said...

It always works that way! AND even in relationships, there is always one person who seems to be that much more in love than the other person and it switches up every now & then...

Hippo_Lee_toe said...

This lady once told me to find a man who loves you more than you love him.. that way he will never stray..sounds like a next topic to talk about ! haha

nicole said...

love and lust eh? hehe/ hows yr training goin? lucky you for able to keep it goin.i worled out for a day and i was like, ok dats it. haha! link x?

Reggie Magz said...

I like this post. Good topic.

I believe a friendship must be created before there could be anything between a man and woman. I can't count how many times I've slipped into a relationship, and then thought this was all about the booty. I know, I've done my fair share of lusting, and only once could I say I have loved someone. Like how you said, both of those words are different, and they're mixed up. That's why I get discouraged when a girl mentions sex within the first week or month of talking. If it's like that then you're just a catch and throw back. - Took that from Steve Harvey's book that just came out. You should look into it. it's a great book, so I have heard. It's called "Act like a lady, think like a man." I am going to grab me a copy this weekend. Probably going to be the first book I read since Jay Leno's biography in '99. LOL!

Be easy.

Hippo_Lee_toe said...

lol Sounds like an interesting read! Gotta check it out!

Cheri said...

Aaah I love your blog as well!

&& I give you props for this posting


I feel the same way sometimes, and definitely agree with the last sentence

"&& doesn't always seem you when a person wants you, you dont want them ... but when you realize you want them they're over you. "

Always happens to me.

Unbreakable said...

This is a very interesting blog post.

Yeah we all undergo times in our life when we misuse these words, sometimes intentionally and at a younger age we do because we just don't know the difference.